Tuesday, December 18, 2007

I still need you here

Sorry, you all, it's going to go personal here again for yet another day. No interruption of service this time, though, I think.

We've received the awful news that my uncle's partner committed suicide. It's difficult--they were the only people in our family to live on the West Coast, so getting there to be for him--well, it's not probably going to be an option for all of us. I know none of you knew him, but he came from the most difficult background but was honestly one of the most fun people you could ever meet. Back when San Francisco's mayor legalized gay marriage, he and my uncle were one of the first couples to get married. My uncle, who I love, was the one you'd go to if you wanted help with your chemistry homework or wanted to go see, say, the Monterey Bay Aquarium; his partner was the one who'd go get facials with you and take you to go shopping. To be me-centric for a second, the summer my cousin, stepsister, and I spent out with them in San Francisco was one of the best times of my life, and he did one of the sweetest things anyone has ever done for me. His presence will be incredibly missed by everyone you knew him. And my uncle--I can't imagine being forced to deliver a eulogy for your sister in October and then losing your husband in December. I love you. Both.

This song goes out to both of them--I was just telling Digital Technique the other day that's it's one of my all-time favorite songs; beyond the lyrics, it's that effortlessly swoony chorus that makes it so perfect and so gorgeous.

Sinéad Quinn - Ready To Run (album available here or here)

16 comments:

Mike said...

Oh honey that's so awful! He sounds like an amazing guy. I'm thinking of you xxxxx

paul @ www.thezapping.com said...

I'm so sorry to hear your news. It is a terrible thing to happen any time of year, but it seems especially poignant so close to Christmas. I hope your uncle draws strength from your support and remembers the happy memories he created for you and your family. Big hug.

FiRe said...

So sad to read about your loss. I wish you and your uncle strength during this period of sorrow. Keep the faith!

Digital Technique said...

That is such terrible news, especially at this time of year, and he sounds like such an amazing person. As Paul said at least you have all the happy memories to help you through this difficult time. Thinking about you and your family, loadsa love and hugs DT xxxx

Anonymous said...

:(
Sorry to hear that.

turnaround

Resa said...

My condolences to you and your family at this difficult time. The song you chose is absolutely lovely. Remember that you've got all those memories and nothing can take them away. :)

Adem With An E said...

Oh honey, I am so, so sorry to hear about this. My thoughts, love and best wishes are with you and your Uncle babe. :(

*hugs*

Len said...

PG, so sorry to hear about your loss. At a time like this, your uncle is very lucky to have someone like you in his life.

Robpop said...

I don't think I can add anything that has been said above me. PPG, my heart goes out to you. 2007 has been a tough year. Be strong and keep hold of the laughter and the giggles....

D'luv said...

Thinking of you -- BIG hug xxxx

xolondon said...

Everyone else has said it better than me. I am so very sorry you and your family have to experience this at all, much less now.

Foxbase Alpha said...

I am very sorry for that. Just think of the great and lucky moments you were able to spend with him when things were alright. I am sure 2008 is going to be definitely better for you as the good things definitely pay off. And giving all of us daily moments of good reading and music is a good thing, we really mean it.

Take care!

thnairg said...

Yeah, what they all said. ;-) Seriously, this has been a bummer year for you and I hope that my thinking of you (as I'm certain all your other friends and readers are) helps to alleviate your sorrow. I wish I were there just so I could give you a big hug.

-T

Poster Girl said...

Thank you all! Really. It means a lot.

Aleera said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to know that!
I don't even know what to say, but I'll pray for you and the rest of your family to be OK.

EuropeCrazy said...

Can't add anything more except to say I'm thinking of you, and remember that he will always live on in your happy memories of him.

Big hugs & best wishes. XX